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[Anonymous]

I am so sorry to hear this, hes being out of order, bring this up with the solicior, and also tell the police, he deserves to get no money from the divorce and have 2 pay. I think the restraining order is a good idea to prevent thurther problems.

[Barley]

How old are ya? If it's under 18 then he's in a lot of trouble. Not only can you get the restraining order, but it could be used as evidence in the divorce to prevent him getting anything :)

[Micky007]

Hi,

Jesus, i feel sorry for you. If i was you i would be on the phone to the police and filing a complaint.

You should have got a spade or some sort of kitchen product and smashed his car window or something.

I am currently mad with your dad and feel like knocking the **it out of him.

Your dad is a **king complete **ckhead !

Sorry for the bad language.

[Biodoid]

I agree with Micky on this

[mac124]

Unless he's alot bigger than you or knows how to fight (and you don't) then lump the so and so give as good as you get, anyone starts and gets physical on me then god help them, i do know how to fight (been kick boxing for a few years).

[Micky007]

[quote:834f644cc2=\"ÈL ® ö B ì Ñ\"]Aye Mac he's quite big lol....not fat....but quite built, alot bigger then me.

Trust me he was lucky...as I went out there were loads of rocks on my left by the door, lucky i fergot they were there otherwise things could of been different.

Found his passport today, how much do they cost to replace?

His might have to go on a little journey with the lighter.[/quote:834f644cc2]

Go right ahead !

While your buring it play this song:

Burn baby burn! - Disco inferno!
Burn baby burn! - Burn that mother down
Burn baby burn! - Disco inferno!
Burn baby burn! - Burn that mother down

But replace Mother with Father ;)

But i dont really want to be giving you ideas as as much as i hate your father i must really stay out of this and so should everyone els as its nothing to do with us and is upto the ÈL ® ö B ì Ñ Family to resolve the issue in what ever way they want.

Thanks

[Barley]

I'm sure between us all we can come up with some inventive ways to annoy the hell out of him :)

That router of his, has he taken it? If not, flash it with the BIOS from a different router :)

His passport should definitely take a trip somewhere without him!

Where's eh living now? Has he bought somewhere, or renting? Living on his own?

[Barley]

Surely it's a simple open shut case then? He's committed adultery, he gets nothing! He broke the vows of marriage, in court it'd go very much against him, and on top of that your mum has kids to look after, assuming your siblings are under 18? Sadly you don't count because you're over 18 now.

[Belso]

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First off i'll share my experience with a situation like this. It may help.

My parents split up ages ago, since then we have had my mum's boyfriend living with us, which is ok.

I don't like him and he doesn't like me. 2 totally different people.

Anyways around 2/3 years ago, whilst i was upstairs there was screaming from downstairs so i go down there to find my mum on the floor crying and him holding a chair up.

I immediately called my Dad who arrived in 2/3 mins time to sort things out.

Mum promised he would be kicked out ect... but this never happened.

Fast Forward 2 years, (23rd December last year) i came home with a friend, quite late around 11:30pm. Sitting there for a while when my mum's bf walks in. I tell my friend to leave.

His ****ed, and kneels down infront of me and starts talking about how i dont respect my mum, how im lazy ect.. (Tbh i sat there laughing as i thought oh his ****ed nevermind)

Next thing i know he starts punching me in the face, 7 times to be exact. They weren't to hard punches but still upsetting. (What the hell who does he think he is? What right does he have telling me what i can do?) This brings up memory's of when i was 9/10 when my Grandad punched me in the face.

So anyway, shaken and cant move and dont really know what to do, until my mum wakes up and enters my room. He leaves and acts all innocent.

I decide i've had enough and call the Police, they arrive 10 minutes later and my mum is shocked as she doesn't understand what happened. He is handcuffed and taking away.

I explain to my mum what happened and she refuses to believe me, out of sheer fustration i punched a window and the broken glass nearly cost me 3 fingers.

The family was rocked by this, as he was released the next morning and told he couldn't be in the same building as me or something for 18 months. Unless i dropped the charges.

Lets just say i dropped the charges Christmas Eve, and my mum still doesn't believe me. He got away with 1 night in a prison cell :cry:

People who use violence to sort things do not deserve a place in society, especially when its comes to harming there own children. Its wrong and your dad deserves to be punished.

So El, i know he is your dad but Violence should never ever be tolerated.
I still regret dropping the charges against him, especially as he still lives with us.

If i was you i would call your dad, and demand an explaination. Speak to your mum about what she thinks you should do. But do what you think its right mate :D

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[Isquish]

I'd avoid taking any kind of revenge if you can.

Anything you do to any of his property hurts your case and ultimately your mum's chances.

I know it's easy to get emotional and god knows I agree with the sentiments posted here so far but if you get involved in *** for tat the courts won't do anything unless one of you ends up with serious and obvious damages. None of that will help you or your mother.

I'd talk to your mum when you're calmer and she is and see what she wants to do as regards the divorce etc. If it won't cause problems with your mum and she's happy with you getting involved (bear in mind she might want you to butt out so she's the target of his anger not you) then I'd seek legal advice.

You'll get very little if you go after him on your own tbh and damaging his property is a bad idea - damaging his passport is seriously not a good idea as it's a legal document and the police do get very ****y about things like that.

Unfortunately the only way (under the current law) to get even with him is to do nothing whatsoever and keep your head down. Let your mother include his assault on you with her divorce as evidence of him being violent and unreasonable and your case is much stronger.

Try and keep your younger siblings out of this, I'm sure you want them to see your side of things and support your mother with you but being honest, they're less likely to see your side if you put pressure on. Just let them make their own minds up and see how it progresses.

My friend went through this sort of thing at the same age as you and he was placed between a rock and a hard place by a parent forgetting their age and responsbilities. It's not easy and it's certainly not fair. You have my sympathy and I hope you and your mum manage to sort things out.

Essentially - my advice to your mum is hold on for everything and I mean everything. If he's just bought a new car - use that as evidence of his income. The holidays and the new car - they're not him 'enjoying' himself, it's him getting rid of disposable income that he's going to lose, and he knows he's going to lose it. Your mother is in the driving seat here, she has two (I'm not sure if you count at 19) dependants to keep and he will be forced to help with that.

If you really want to sort your father out, keep cool and calm, get your mum to give the solicitors as much info as she can and then support her to go for the jugular. Then your father will be wincing for the next 10 years, not just the next 10 minutes.

'Squish

[Micky007]

Hi,

Carnt you get a free solicitor on behalf of your mum?

Im not sure you can but was just wondering?

[Micky007]

Hi,

no idea, just ring your local police station and ask how would you get a restraining order put on your dad.

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